Through high school and college, my son’s best friend was, I’ll call him Ray. My son, I’ll call him Matt, spent half of his spare time at Ray’s. Ray’s mom and dad were Matt's “backup” parents. I think every kid has a set of “backup parents” during those school years. I visited Ray’s once and his family had a whole wall dedicated to family pictures. My son was the only “Non-family” member on the wall. I think Ray’s folks semi-adopted Matt.