Thursday, September 13, 2018
Maybe It’s Just Us
I think there is a strange dynamic between myself and Mrs. C. I’m not complaining, it is just strange. I wonder if it is a dude-dudette kind of thing in general or maybe it’s just us.
There are a few things that Mrs. C will do for me that I never have to ask for, as a matter of fact they are things that I can easily do for myself and would never ask for her to intercede. Nevertheless, she always does these things.
There is always a full container of Carnation Coffee Creamer powder stuff next to my coffee brewer. There is always a full container of honey that I use with my coffee, and there is always fresh coffee, either for my drip machine, or those individual cups thing.
I never ask, “Do we have any coffee?” I never ask, “Do we have any creamer.” I have never requested, “Is there any honey.” These things are just always where I expect them.
There is always a box of Kleenex on the table on my side of the bed. Always. There are always "Little Bites" coffee cakes in the cupboard for my after-dinner coffee. There is always yogurt in the fridge and eggs, bacon and sausage for my breakfast. These things never run low. Never.
Mrs. C does all these things and more without my request.
I don’t think there is anything similar that I regularly do for Mrs. C. I don’t anticipate her needs in the same way as she anticipates mine.
However, if we are lying in bed and she simply mentions she is out of water, or would really like a piece of chocolate or an Italian Ice, I will get up and go downstairs and get her what she wants without a second thought.
On the other hand, if I realize I am out of water, and ask for a refill she responds with an instant and dismissive
Apparently, our dynamic is she anticipates my needs and takes care of them, but spur of the moment desires are not in her relationship description.
Apparently, I do not need to anticipate her needs, I just need to be on call.
I’m not complaining…works for us.