WHY WE NEED THERAPISTS
I am not fond of therapists; I really don’t believe in them that much. Still, I see around me evidence that the world will always need therapists.
On a recent trip to Aruba, I witnessed parents preparing a four year old for a future of therapy. This little girl was obviously used to getting her way, and while waiting in line for the airport security check she was inconsolable when her demands to be held could not be met even if her parents wanted to indulge her. I made a mental note that this is why you do not give in to children just to appease them; sooner or later appeasement will not be possible and the child will not understand or care. She will do what she has been taught and whine, tug on legs or throw a full out lie down and kick tantrum.
When this little girl finally made it through security she made a bee line into a store unaccompanied by a parent. Mom turned her head for an instant and the girl was gone, apparently looking to cash in with a present as a reward for being a brat in the line.
Mom saw her just as she entered the store. She could have just grabbed her and walked her out explaining that she could not just have whatever she wants whenever she wants it, and to remind her to stay close especially in a crowded airport.
No, she did not do that.
Mom ran to her little girl in a complete panic. The little girl saw that mom was upset and became upset herself.
Here comes the good part, or actually the bad part.
Mom scooped her daughter in her arms and went on to explain in great detail,
“Don’t ever run away like that again. There are people who if they see you alone will grab you and drag you away. They will lock you up and make you do things you don’t want to do and you will NEVER SEE MOMMY OR DADDY AGAIN!!
Do you want that…DO YOU?”
I guess that will stop her from running away again; maybe.
I think there may be a therapist in that little girl’s future.