Wednesday, May 2, 2012
I LOVE YOU
I LOVE YOU
I love you; oh those three little words. They mean so much, yet they can mean so little. My family does not use these words lightly or often.
I don’t believe my Dad ever said those words to me. He worked long hard days for me. He was always there for me. He supported me in sports and paid for my lousy grades in school. We fished together, sailed together, bowled together and golfed together. He taught me to be a good person. He never said I love you. I don’t believe I ever said I love you to him.
My Mom never said those words to me. She gave me a nice home life. She cleaned, washed, and cooked. She doctored my cuts and scrapes. She took care of me when I was ill. She was there with a philosophical answer for every problem and situation. She never said I love you. I don’t believe I ever said I love you to her.
I never felt unloved by my Mom and Dad.
I have been in two relationships where those words were used often. In one relationship I never left the house without saying and hearing them. I was always told when seeing or leaving my grown children, “Say I love you…go on…say it.” Both of these relationships ended with my partner leaving for someone else. With one of them I was reading a note planted in my suitcase while I was away on a trip. The note said “I love you.” As I was reading the note, she was with another man.
My culture or at least the culture of my family does not use these words lightly. Often we do not use them at all. I used to joke about that. I used to be ashamed that the words came with such difficulty.
I have come to realize that when the words come easy, their meaning is diminished. Actions are more important than words, however if there is any doubt, for this one time only, here it comes:
To Mrs. Cranky; Karen – I love you
To my brother Chris and sister-in-laws Mary Stewart and Judy – I love you
To my Cranks; Mary Beth, Mike, Matt, and Spencer- I love you
To my Crankettes; Tommy, Halley, Graham, Cole and Connor – I love you
To my daughter-in-law Devon – I love you
To my step cranks; Casey and Peter – Yes I love you guys too
There it is.
I said it.
I mean it.
Don’t ask me again!