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Thursday, May 24, 2012

HAVING STUFF - a Cranky re-run

(Anyone under 25, if you like you can substitute SHIT for STUFF).

Having stuff does not make you happy.  Not having stuff that other people have makes you unhappy.  The more people that have stuff that you do not have, the unhappier you will be. 

When I was a kid we didn’t have a lot of stuff.  We didn’t have a color TV; we had no air conditioning, and we didn’t have a computer, laptop or otherwise.  We didn’t have an i-pad, an i-pod, or Netflix.  We did not have a CD player; we did not have a DVD player; hell, we didn’t even have a VCR, and yet we were happy.  Why?  Because no one else had any of this stuff either.  

Our car (not plural) had roll-up windows and no air conditioning.  It had brakes that had to be stomped on to stop and steering which took a two-hundred pound man to parallel park (note to Microsoft Word- parallel is not the name of a park and does not need to be capitalized).  The clock was analog and did not work.  The radio was AM only.  Still, we were happy.  Why? Because no one had a car with power windows or air conditioning, clocks were all analog and never worked in a car, no one had FM radio in the car, and power brakes and steering were still not invented.

We had one telephone.  It was all black, it had a rotary dial, there was no call waiting, no caller ID and calls outside of your area code (wait, there was no area code either) calls outside your county were long distance and cost more.  Cell phones were a Dick Tracy wrist radio pipe dream.  GPS was Dad with a map.  Even so we were happy.  Why? Because one phone was enough, call waiting is annoying, you could hang up when you lost the nerve to ask a girl out and she would not know it was you, and we didn’t know anyone outside the county.  Cell phones  tie you down.  Dad with a map was as good as any GPS and he never had to recalculate.

One July, in the mid-fifties, the Newmans, our neighbors to the left, got a window unit air conditioner for their Den (family room today for you young people), and we were unhappy.  Then my Dad got central air for our entire house, and the Newmans were unhappy.  The Tullys, our neighbors to our right, got a blue princess touchtone phone for their kitchen.  We were unhappy.  Dad got a new princess phone, and a color TV.  The Tully’s were unhappy. 

The Tullys countered with a power lawn mower, the Newmans got a car with power windows, brakes and steering.  Dad got a new stereo and the neighbors’ “high fidelity” systems were to be pitied.

Thus the battle of stuff goes on.  No one is any happier for all the new stuff; everyone is actually less happy until they catch up in the battle of the stuff. 

If there is any value at all in becoming a cranky old man, it is that stuff becomes less and less important.  You have some new stuff that I don’t?  Cool; look at me-I’m still above ground!  You can watch any movie on a portable device at the touch of a button?  What will they think of next?  Hey, look at me; I’m fucking breathing!  You can download any song in seconds and store thousands of them in a cigarette sized box.  Wonderful.  I can whistle any song I want for free!  Your car has a sun roof, backup camera, i-pod deck, hands free cell speaker system, satellite radio and a drop down TV in the back for the kids?  That’s fantastic, watch this: I can still get out of bed in the morning!

I don’t really need any more stuff.  I am very happy with the stuff I have.  The stuff I have is way more than any stuff I grew up with, and as far as I know, the Newmans or the Tullys don’t have any of this stuff.  


  1. Excellent! I'm just a couple of candles behind you, and I too am rapidly losing interest in acquiring more stuff. In fact I'm trying to get rid of much of what I do have. To me more stuff means less time/energy/money to do what I want.

    When you get older the term "You can't take it with you" hits home a little harder, doesn't it? ;)


  2. I decided to get rid of stuff some years ago. Now I rarely leave the house without taking something to either pitch into a trash bin or give to GoodWill. One of the best things I don't have is a cellphone...this leaves others gasping but makes me happy. If someone wants to get in touch with me, call me at home and, if I'm not there, call later. It's wonderful not having a cellphone. I'm never interrupted while doing things I truly enjoy doing.

  3. Cranky I hear ya. We have too much shit less has become more in my book to. I am decluttering selling shit on craigslist and getting ride of stuff we no longer need/use. I have a toddler can you imagine the shit we have here.

  4. Joe, this is absolutely brilliant. I love every word you have written and agree with all of it. If those bastards don't stop improving and/or inventing more stuff they are going to ruin what's left of the world.

    Sadly, I am not kidding....and I don't think you are either. Still, you even made me laugh while I was crying.

  5. Cranky, pleased to meet you, I hate stuff, I'm not in the race for stuff ownership.. it does make me miserable... I'm 24 AND I know what a den is!

  6. A colleague was complaining about how much her family's cell phone bill is. Stuff cost so much more now a days. My land line use to cost me $50 a month now I pay $150 between my entire family on a cell phone bill. I told her that she cold get a land line for virtually free and call anywhere in the world. She didn't want to hear it. I like accumulating and throwing stuff out. Why just 3 days ago I traded an old beat up ladder for a $75 electric/Velcro batting tee with the guy who comes at 10:30 at night to pick the garbage. You know the guy who comes before the garbage man to get the good garbage. Anyway RT on STUFF.

  7. I really liked reading this perspective. I'm trying to work out how to reduce the amount of crap we have just lying around; all the things we have thought are necessary, and now the kids think so too.
    Having said that, I've learnt (still learning?) to not compare; you will never be happy when you look at what you don't have, and stop looking at what you do have.

  8. Have you ever watched George Carlins' comedy act about stuff?

    At my age I am reducing the stuff in my house..don't want the t v show Hoarders knocking on my door.

  9. I am hoping that the t v show American pickers knocks on my door, problem solved. It would be a win/win situation for me.


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