Your Baby is a Sociopath!
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| This cranky re-run is from September 2012 |
(A GRANDPA JOE OBSERVATION)
There is a common misconception that a child is born innocent, sweet and pure. A spoiled child, an evil adolescent or a sociopath adult is the result of bad parenting. Parents spoiled the child or taught him to be demanding and unsocial. A grownup who is mean, evil, and has no regard for others was taught to be that way by poor parenting.
It is true that a sociopath may be the result of poor parenting, but it is not true that poor parenting creates the sociopath. Poor parenting fails to reform the sociopath. The truth is that children from the time they are conceived are spoiled sociopaths. Children have one driving instinct. They have the instinct to survive. They do not care who they hurt or what they break, they will do whatever it takes to eat, sleep and be taken care of. They “love you” only because they need you.
Mommy needs sleep? I don’t care, “FEED ME!” I broke that pretty glass thingy that mommy does not seem to want me to touch? I don’t care, “FEED ME!” I pooped my pants, “I don’t care.” Something in my pants is uncomfortable, “I care, CHANGE ME! FEED ME, CUDDLE ME, PUT ME TO BED! ME, ME, ME, ME!”
Your baby is a sociopath. He was born a sociopath. He cares not for others, he just wants!
Parents are not handed a lump of clay to mold into a loving caring human being. They are handed a spoiled sociopath that they need to reduce to a lump of clay, and then rebuild into a loving caring human being while at the same time tending to his needs.
This is a most difficult balancing act. You must feed, clean and entertain. You must respond to cries and whines, and at the same time be in control and be the boss. You must put his needs above all others, be the provider and the protector and at the same time teach him to respect and care for others. You must give him whatever he needs to survive. You need to be ever diligent to jump up and protect him from the dangers of falling chairs and un-swallow-able interesting things. You need to do all these things and yet somehow teach him that he will not always be the center of all creatures’ attention.
This is a most difficult assignment and the source of much parental frustration. It is particularly frustrating if you think you are ruining a perfect human being. It is important to realize you were handed a spoiled sociopath. It is ok to not love everything about this sociopath.
It is up to you to un-spoil and socialize this little creature before he is set loose on society.
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Your baby is a sociopath!
You have absolutely nailed it Joe and it blows that Nature/Nurture theory out of the window - all babies are by nature sociopaths but how we nurture them is what really counts.
ReplyDeleteloved the sentence that baby loves you because he needs you .
ReplyDeletecan you dig it more and find out the love above this fact
That's why babies should understand the concept of disappoint from the moment they are born. That way, by the time they are teenagers, their spirit has been broken and they don't expect people to just give them everything.
ReplyDeleteHave never heard it put quite that way. I agree fully.
ReplyDeleteAnd apparently a good many parents have failed.
ReplyDeleteLOL!
DeleteMy oldest still believes the world revolves around her. My other two are just crazy in their own ways.
ReplyDeleteYou express a cruel but truthful fact when it comes to babies. So many parents today are abdicating responsibility for parenting. We all suffer for it.
ReplyDeleteYes on what Stephen Hayes said. I see that more and more all the time. They they blame their kids' awful behavior on someone else. Not them or their kids. Weirder world we live in.
ReplyDeleteHave a fabulous day. ☺
All of the parenting is done so our children become independent and helping adults. I thought that sociopaths are people who are born with a different mind set regardless of their backgrounds or up bringing. I guess the lessons we learned in civics and sociology are dated. Lol.
ReplyDeleteSo much truth in this. You are spot on. - Side note, you wrote about sociopaths today and I wrote about psychopaths. I also mentioned you in my psychopath post. Hahahaha.
ReplyDeleteMy children were born screaming and wailing with healthy sets of lungs. Because I needed sleep and I needed care, I put them on a schedule so that I could remain sane. They learned that it didn't matter if they cried at 4:00 a.m., they would get fed at exactly 6:00 a.m. when that mommy lady wakes up.
ReplyDeleteYou nailed it, Joe!!
ReplyDeleteAn interesting take on it, i call it original sin, but it means about the same thing.
ReplyDeleteI may never look at an adorable baby the same way again.
ReplyDeleteApparently some parents never master the art and the baby remains a sociopath his whole life.
ReplyDeleteMy puppy is a sociopath. One of the cats is trying to teach him respect. With limited success.
ReplyDeleteAren't babies what they would classify as Super ID? We have the wonderful job of getting them to still have a bit of an ego, but make sure they are likable and loved by others. Often makes you wonder why anyone would want to have kids, doesn't it?
ReplyDeletebetty
You are right...children, until they are about 3 or 4 years old, are selfish buggers. Of course, that's how it needs to be.
ReplyDeleteGRANDchildren, on the other hand, are sweet and perfect creatures!