Mrs. C and I very seldom say the three words. I’ve told her, she’s told me, we know. It is not a big deal, it is just how we roll. We touch a lot and are affectionate even when we bicker. I do have to teach her about hugging.
Every morning before I retreat to my basement sanctuary to practice guitar and or write, she demands a hug. That is fine, the problem is she holds on too long. There is a whole body language to a hug.
There is the one-hand-rub-on-the-back-while-you-hug, hug. This indicates we are just friends.
There is the barely make contact hug. This is usually reserved for first meetings or acquaintances only.
There is the chest bump, fist pump to the back hug. This is reserved for bro’s and says, “I love you dude, but not that way!”
There is the pat-pat-pat on the back hug. This says I have to do this, but don’t get any ideas; I call it the tap-out hug. I got it a lot in my first marriage.
The arms around the neck and squeeze hug means you have been sorely missed. It may or may not have sexual connotations.
The two arms around the back and squeeze is an “I love you” hug. The duration of this hug is important. Too short is a mixed signal. Too long means you may get lucky. A good 10 second double arm hug says, “I love you, and maybe later!” Anything over 10 seconds means “let’s get it on.” The double arm hug requires a squeeze back. When one party ends the squeeze back, the hug should simultaneously end.
Mrs. C gives me the double arm hug before I leave her in the morning. She hangs on forever, even after I withhold the squeeze back. Since I know ain’t nothing going to happen at this time, she is making a mockery of the “I love you” hug. Mocking the “I love you” hug is saying just the opposite.
I hate the extended double arm hug when it is miss-used like this. Mrs. C knows I hate the extended double arm morning hug so she does it on purpose to aggravate me.
I think the intent to aggravate by using an extended double arm hug without an extended return squeeze means she loves me.
That’s my interpretation, and I’m sticking to it.