I may be guilty of Old Fogyism, but I just have to comment.
Are there any millennials listening?
Here is the thing, I’m watching the latest episode of “Married at First Sight” (so you know this will be an intellectual opinion) and I am amazed by how much these millennials over analyze EVERYTHING!
“He said such and such, that must mean he isn’t happy.”
No, it just means such and such; stop reading something into EVERYTHING!
Everything someone says does not have some deeper meaning.
Millennials often have choices for almost everything they do, and apparently these choices all might have major consequences.
I tell you it must be exhausting when you think every decision you make from where you eat to what book you read might affect you in some way for the rest of your life. Every gosh dang decision these people make is considered to be possibly life altering.
OK, where you live, what you do to earn a living, how many children might you have, these deserve thought and attention, but even these major events should not leave you paralyzed with fear and indecision.
Yeah, back in the day you lived where you had to live, to work at a job you had to do, and there was often no choice either way. You had children if you had sex because there were no sure-fire methods to prevent them. Choice in having children was hormone driven.
Back in the day, (sure sign of old fogyism) it was difficult not having choices, yet in some ways it was liberating. No need to ponder and worry, you did what you did and it was what it was.
Choices are great until you start to over analyze every choice and worry before and after every decision.
I wonder if a millennial could even play a game like golf.
“Should I try and hit the ball to the left and avoid the sand trap, or aim right and hope I don’t put it in the woods? I could aim straight but if it goes too far, I might find the lake.”
“Dude, you going to hit or not?”
“Yes, but this is a tough decision, it might make or ruin my whole day, and if I ruin my day I will be in a bad mood, if I am in a bad mood my wife will notice and think it is something she did. If my wife thinks it is something she did, it will ruin her day and she will start a fight about it. She won’t believe my mood is over a golf game and will assume I am cheating on her. If she thinks I am cheating we will get a divorce. If I get a divorce, I will lose most of my friends, go into deep depression get fired from my job, and my life will be ruined!”
“You could always take a Mulligan.” (Golf expression for a do over).
No decision is often worse than a bad decision. Certainly, over analyzing every decision and worrying even after the fact is not productive. It may be why therapists are so busy these days.
Millennials need to learn that life will sometimes give you a mulligan and you have to just swing the damn club!