tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post8796933946924591354..comments2024-03-26T17:55:50.539-04:00Comments on Cranky old man: BULLIES - A cranky re-runjoehhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08520161706680568508noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post-30461075952824288472014-01-22T03:03:30.626-05:002014-01-22T03:03:30.626-05:00Like Bob said, those being bullied are often smart...Like Bob said, those being bullied are often smarter than the bully, so why don't they see the bullying for what it is and turn off the text message, the tweets, the facebook, ignore the whole thing and get on with life. Are they so insecure in themselves that they can't live without absolutely everyone liking them? <br />I remember someone very popular in our workplace saying to me "I don't like you" and I replied I don't need you to like me. Took the wind right out of her sails. Riverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14794655013673748992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post-16740673213481543282014-01-21T20:09:59.340-05:002014-01-21T20:09:59.340-05:00having been in the bullied crowd i can truly say t...having been in the bullied crowd i can truly say that something fundamental has changed. i was fortunate enough to have mitigating circumstances but also lived in an age where discovered bullying was hammered hard. today bullying is poo-pood at best. all too often the bullied is punished more severely when they stand up than the bully can ever expect which is a recipe for excess revenge as we've seen several times. <br /><br />shake hands and shake it off. that was the mantra of one of the the local school supers and it almost ended in disaster. <br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post-54241599628199773952014-01-21T18:57:47.068-05:002014-01-21T18:57:47.068-05:00I think bullying is not worse today, but that we u...I think bullying is not worse today, but that we understand better how damaging it is. When I was a kid bullying was unofficially regarded as part of childhood and teachers didn't do that much about it. (We also had a couple of teachers who bullied the weaker students in their classes). I was terrified of an older boy at school when I was little who used to bully me, and my dad came to the playground and threatened him directly, said if he ever bothered me again he'd come back and break his legs. This supposedly fixed the problem or did he just turn his attention to someone else? Or was he damaged himself by his own experiences? These days it can seem like there's a bit of overkill/moral panic around bullying but at least schools actively manage it and at least we're all more aware and a but smarter about it now.Jackie Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06322613989851869319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post-67086215520144137242014-01-21T08:23:27.529-05:002014-01-21T08:23:27.529-05:00I know it's a surprise to say it, but for seve...I know it's a surprise to say it, but for several years when I was younger I was bullied. Back then we just coped with and hoped they just went away. It stopped when I started dating my hubby who back in the day was in the "bad boy" class. I think people were too afraid to pick on me then. :) As an adult I have ran into my childhood bullies who have even stopped me to say hi as if they can't remember back in those days. The really sad thing is the number of young kids in this town who are committing suicide because of being bullied. :( Gossip_Grlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06603645371306284338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post-5903998656190621522014-01-20T22:21:17.628-05:002014-01-20T22:21:17.628-05:00I can't agree 100 percent. Whatever happened t...I can't agree 100 percent. Whatever happened to "sticks and stones?" It's not like you're getting a bucket of pig blood dumped on you at the prom. Sometimes you have to let things go. If it's not physical, you have to learn to tune some of it out. Who are you going to tattle to and get protection from every time someone hurts your feelings as you go through life? Don't let people make you feel inferior.Valhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13025832536749983018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post-82838686211773493552014-01-20T21:43:56.171-05:002014-01-20T21:43:56.171-05:00I agree, cyber-bullying is an insidious thing. An...I agree, cyber-bullying is an insidious thing. And kids are cruel. That's a dangerous combination.Lowandslowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08608734222483888884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post-9736860907572061732014-01-20T16:40:26.237-05:002014-01-20T16:40:26.237-05:00I married a self confessed childhood bully. And no...I married a self confessed childhood bully. And no, they don't out grow it. <br />Today however, bullying has reached a terrifying scale. It can reach a point where children take their own lives or even worse, strike back with guns taking lives of the innocent. Arkansas Pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156004753267665579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post-57668481203936005332014-01-20T14:33:00.049-05:002014-01-20T14:33:00.049-05:00Up until now I've been blase about this attent...Up until now I've been blase about this attention on bullying but you make some good points. Technology is changing this into a more significant problem than it was in days past. I don't know what it will take to tackle this problem but it's good we're focused on it as a society. stephen Hayeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17659054447637207734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post-53747792429935717182014-01-20T13:53:17.656-05:002014-01-20T13:53:17.656-05:00How can I agree with both you AND Bob?How can I agree with both you AND Bob?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post-70266050423041491632014-01-20T12:11:46.338-05:002014-01-20T12:11:46.338-05:00Well, I'm not sure this qualifies as "br...Well, I'm not sure this qualifies as "brushing it aside", (and it just might) but I'm of the opinion that we're raising a generation of whimps. <br />Plain and simple. Stand up for yourself!<br />Typically, those being bullied are smarter (or should be) than the bullies. There's always a way to outsmart a bully. And if it comes right down to it, just stand up to them. I've had to do it, when I was a young snot. Managed to come out the other end unscathed. Maybe I was lucky, who knows?<br />In my adult life, I do seem to recall standing up to a fellow who had exactly a hundred pounds on me, and all I said was, "So what now, you gonna beat me up?. No problem, I could use a nice rest in hospital, and then when I get out, I know a really good civil litigator who would be quite happy to take your house from you. So go ahead." <br />He thought better of it.<br />I think once he understood that I wasn't afraid of him (and he had been in a few bust-ups) we got along just fine. Again, I suppose it could have gone either way.<br />Now, going back to my original contention of our generation of whimps, I blame the "helicopter Moms" who are so afraid that their precious little darlins are going to be somehow scarred for life by some triviality, that those same little darlins never learn how to stand on their own two feet. <br />It's an epidemic I tell ya!Bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03523653271715366168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post-3100028189390798912014-01-20T11:48:36.921-05:002014-01-20T11:48:36.921-05:00you're right. there is no escaping their tacti...you're right. there is no escaping their tactics these days.TexWisGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13641962051044162710noreply@blogger.com