tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post7220129803492957422..comments2024-03-26T17:55:50.539-04:00Comments on Cranky old man: STEP CHILDRENjoehhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08520161706680568508noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post-60322573650430040992014-05-11T20:54:46.685-04:002014-05-11T20:54:46.685-04:00As you know my youngest son is my step son. I don&...As you know my youngest son is my step son. I don't use that term unless I have to. He is my son. I raise him. I feed, clothe make sure he showers, brushes his teeth, goes to school and does his homework. I get up with him when he is sick and I comfort him when he is hurt. He is my baby. Anyone who looks at "step" children as step children and not their child, should not be in said relationship. Sorry. Pet peeve of mine. Life happenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04426557368853696930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post-7605764509431802322014-05-10T06:18:58.569-04:002014-05-10T06:18:58.569-04:00Not meaning to get deep, but my dad chose his step...Not meaning to get deep, but my dad chose his step-kids over my siblings and me. For years this fact deeply bothered me but I have come to accept it and have long since moved on. I was lucky enough to have a terrific grandfather and uncles. <br /><br />The funny part is that my siblings are quite a bit younger than me and a few years ago started a new relationship with our father. I tried to join in but the rift is just to great.Commander Zaiushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11000824454124236774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post-37020731970261927682014-05-10T04:52:03.186-04:002014-05-10T04:52:03.186-04:00Making someone choose is bad enough, but alienatin...Making someone choose is bad enough, but alienating the step children is worse. How could she?Riverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14794655013673748992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post-10400105069004879932014-05-10T00:01:29.005-04:002014-05-10T00:01:29.005-04:00I too am glad your relationship with your children...I too am glad your relationship with your children has mended. I don't have any steps, probably never will. I'm sure it is a balancing act to learn to live together with all involved, blended, whatever you want to call it, yet I don't think a person should alienate their spouse's children and cause disrupt; something is definitely wrong there.<br /><br />bettybettyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06323135450742337670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post-18975162367639415662014-05-09T20:30:00.153-04:002014-05-09T20:30:00.153-04:00My brother and I have a step-father and three step...My brother and I have a step-father and three step-sisters. For the most part, we all get along, but my 80 year old step-father as recently been diagnosed with very mild symptoms of Alzheimer's. One of the step-sisters has already claimed the two cars that my mom and step-father "currently" drive. Time to revamp the wills before things get ugly.<br /><br />I know this is different from your story, but I can picture all of what you said because of my own blended family. I'm glad you fixed things with the kids. You not only have them, but the grandkids, too.<br /><br />I'm the 10th commenter. We'll give you the discounted shrink rate.Anitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08180243708565855383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post-17798655635658950202014-05-09T19:08:16.432-04:002014-05-09T19:08:16.432-04:00I have two steps. They are grown now, but were 6-7...I have two steps. They are grown now, but were 6-7 when we first met. They actually enjoyed spending their time at our house more with me than with their dad, probably because I was not the chore-assigner and consequence-dealer. I had a blast shopping for Christmas, and stuffing back-to-school backpacks. I do admit to ONE TIME swatting the youngest on the behind with my hand, because he did not stop picking up merchandise and carrying it around a Silver Dollar City shop after being told twice. We both got over it.<br /><br />The worst time was the early teens, when their mom refused to let them visit for a whole year. Their dad went to pick them up every time, but she sent their older half-brother (who he had raised from a baby like his own sons) out to the car to say, "They ain't comin'." At least they knew he did kept trying.<br /><br />Thanks for the therapy.Valhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13025832536749983018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post-19201336733396763122014-05-09T19:05:39.074-04:002014-05-09T19:05:39.074-04:00It can be an awkward situation.It can be an awkward situation.lowandslowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16894539893079965536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post-89431470684498559012014-05-09T16:50:53.180-04:002014-05-09T16:50:53.180-04:00I never understood how a parent could chose a new ...I never understood how a parent could chose a new spouse over children. Good you moved on.Joanne Noragonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09834682329952369721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post-3726388407849550792014-05-09T16:48:08.245-04:002014-05-09T16:48:08.245-04:00Like Mich said, I'm glad you got them all back...Like Mich said, I'm glad you got them all back.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post-79655759455234834922014-05-09T16:37:13.457-04:002014-05-09T16:37:13.457-04:00Two many people use children as pawns in a nasty g...Two many people use children as pawns in a nasty game of emotional chess. I've never had any step children but I like to think I'd treat them well. Take care.stephen Hayeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17659054447637207734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post-35323161370550096282014-05-09T14:48:23.251-04:002014-05-09T14:48:23.251-04:00I lucked out with one step-parent--she always trea...I lucked out with one step-parent--she always treated me like her own. Also she really wanted a daughter and never had one of her own, so she liked having a little girl to dress up and play dolls with. Despite the fact that said little girl had more interest in climbing trees and playing with nerf guns...<br /><br />Glad you got a good relationship back with your kids. That's the most important thing!Michhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12456803425068822920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post-59858735799998376112014-05-09T12:58:23.752-04:002014-05-09T12:58:23.752-04:00I just don't understand why anyone would make ...I just don't understand why anyone would make someone choose. That's horrible. Ginnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11686450030075980690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post-16077836582565663432014-05-09T11:00:29.979-04:002014-05-09T11:00:29.979-04:00my brother was given the 'choose me or your ki...my brother was given the 'choose me or your kids' routine w/ his 2nd wife. sadly, he chose her (and her kids) and lost many years with his 2 girls. TexWisGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13641962051044162710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-968059214758329257.post-26031238182504656222014-05-09T10:25:30.964-04:002014-05-09T10:25:30.964-04:00Sounds like you could write a book on this subject...Sounds like you could write a book on this subject. I have a step and he was delightful. I wasn't hard on him either so we had a healthy relationship.<br /><br />Have a fabulous day. :)Sandeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06785788498697004273noreply@blogger.com