COUNSELORS and THERAPISTS
WARNING: If you are a counselor, marriage or otherwise, you might want to skip reading this post. If you read it anyway, keep in mind I am just an old opinionated blowhard.
I may need therapy.
I may need therapy.
I am not a fan of counselors. I particularly do not like marriage counselors. Marriage counselors are where wives take their husbands to punish them or where marriages go to die. Often it is both.
If you go to a doctor and are terminally ill he will tell you. He will offer procedures or drugs to extend your life or even cure your disease, but he will be upfront with your prognosis. A marriage counselor acts as if he can save every marriage that is in trouble.
I have never known a case where a troubled marriage was saved by a counselor. By the time a couple goes to a counselor, the relationship is terminal. Does the counselor ever tell a couple they are wasting their time (money)? NEVER!
Why do counselors never cure a troubled marriage?
Couples never tell the counselor the truth. The wife beats up on the husband, and opens up with all her ammunition, the husband usually just goes into defensive mode. Women love to unload their feelings, especially if it helps validate their belief that their husband is a jerk. Men hate to divulge their feelings, especially if their wife is present and she will throw those feelings right back in his face.
No one can solve a couple problem with one-sided information.
Ninety-five percent of all marriage counseling sessions should end with, “In my professional opinion you two just don’t like each other and this marriage is terminal.” Instead counselors will schedule as many sessions as possible knowing if he (I know it could be she…GOY) doesn’t suck you dry the divorce lawyers will.
The problem with all counselors is patients will not tell the truth about their behavior.
Psychologists are presented with patients that are clearly wacked. Their erratic behavior has been reported to them, and they are allowed to test the patient to diagnose their problem.
Counselors do not have that luxury.
A patient comes to a counselor and the first question the counselor asks is “So why are you here?” The patient will say, “I can’t sleep” or “I have anxiety problems.” Patients lie about their real problems or behavior.
I know what you’re thinking, “That’s crazy!”
I know a person who went on and off to different counselors for fifteen years. She said she suffered from depression and occasional anxiety attacks. For fifteen years counselors tried to treat her for depression and anxiety attacks.
The truth is this person suffered from Borderline Personality Disorder or BPD. I know this because I witnessed the behavior and diagnosed the symptoms on the internet.
I know what you are thinking, "Cranky are you a trained licensed therapist?"
No, and I don't have a meterology degree either, but I know when it is snowing!
Her counselors could not do this because she would never tell them her actual behavior. She did not know her real behavior. Crazy people change reality in their mind to keep their heads from exploding. They don’t tell a counselor what he really needs to know.